Mirror Image
Recent studies suggest that women spend more time in front of the mirror than men. In fact, we probably didn't need a study to tell us that—it is a fact most people know quite well! However, the point here is not to dwell on who spends more time looking, but to ask: what are they looking for? The idea is not to make fun of the habit, but to understand the concept of the "Mirror Image."
If we seriously consider this object, the mirror gives us a true reflection of who we are. If one truly stands in front of a mirror to observe what it reflects, we can discover our authentic selves. Looking deep into your own eyes can help you figure out your own personality.
Once you discover who you are and begin to truly love yourself, focusing on your inner peace and wellness will bring you cheer and happiness. The problem arises when we create a "wish list" of what we want in a life partner, creating a fixed image in our minds.
We often become so involved in searching for this external image we created that we lose touch with the parts of ourselves that are wise and conscious. Attachment to this false identity leads to a feeling of desperation rather than fulfillment. We become dependent on that specific idea of a person and fearful of loneliness.
We all have a rough idea of what our perfect partner is like and the basic needs required for a happy lifestyle. The struggle begins when we find ourselves in a relationship and constantly compare our partner to this imaginary image. When that happens, we stop appreciating our partner for all the beautiful qualities they actually possess.
The truth is, this "perfect" person does not exist. More importantly, we may not actually need all those specific qualities to be extraordinarily happy. What we really need is to identify the most important qualities necessary for us to feel satisfied and fulfilled.
Ultimately, the conclusion is straightforward: understanding who you are and what you need is more important than analyzing who they are or what you want them to be. When you are searching for someone, look into their eyes as if they were a mirror. If you can find yourself deep within them, your search might end there—though that doesn’t mean eyes are the only factor you should look for in a partner :)
Originally written by Abhay Dodiya on October 26, 2011 – 12:16 pm, Grammatically corrected using LLM.
